Saturday, 3 August 2024

For the first time, i put my imposter syndrome aside and said Thank you

AND i finally did it!!! 

This month, I did two things for the first time in life. Please note - I am 47. 

For the first time in life, I: 

Asked someone staring at my chest to please look away. 

When someone complimented me on becoming an Amazon #1 Bestseller, I put my imposter syndrome aside and said, "Thank you! Yes, I am."  

Well done, me! 

 

Thursday, 1 August 2024

Investing for women

As a woman who has always made the effort to do personal financial planning myself, there are some lessons that I have learnt over 22 years. 

This is the gist of those lessons. 

If you are a woman who has just started earning: 

The first thing you should get is a personal vehicle. Preferably, a car. If not that, a two-wheeler. 

But a car that is about 20-30% more expensive than what you can afford right now. 

This is because the car has to stay with you for 10-12 years. In a couple of years, your salary will go up and you will wish you had a bigger car. Also, car loan can be paid off quickly - about 2-3 years. 

As your salary grows your savings will automatically rise. Ensure that you keep some liquid cash in FDs etc. that can be easily reached in case of an emergency. 

Be absolutely ruthless about cashflow management. If you need 50,000 rs for your monthly expenses, keep 55,000 in the bank and put the rest in a small 25-day FD if you don't want to commit to a longer period or illiquid investment. 

To the extent possible, use your credit card. This gives you points that can be used for stuff, 45-day free credit period during which you earn interest on your money in the savings bank. 

Once you have 6 months' expenses worth in the bank in liquid investments like FD or Cash fund, start investing. 

The next asset class you should look at is gold and real estate (a house to live in). Unlike men, for women, a house to live in is a HUGE security net. In the worst-case scenario - you get married, you give up your job to look after the house/kids, and then things don't work out. If you have a house to call your own and 6 months of liquid money in the bank, you will be a LOT more confident of your decisions either way. They will be decisions of choice, not decisions of compulsion. This worst-case scenario NEVER plays out for men. Only for women. 

Let us assume real inflation is 8-10%. So, good investments would be ones that rise more than 8% per year, and poor investments would be those that rise less than 8% per year. This puts FD in the poor investment category. Houses and gold are both assets that rise much faster than inflation and general hikes. This means that every year, that 100 gm bar of gold or that 2000 sft flat becomes LESS affordable to you, even if your money in bank is increasing. That asset is becoming expensive at a higher rate. That's all. 

Personally, I bought gold and real estate first (within first 7 years of my first job) and then did stuff like stocks, mutual funds, etc. I still buy gold at every dip. Silver is also meant to be a great asset class, but I dont know enough. 

Understand how your asset classes work and then delve. If you work with an investment advisor also, understand what they are getting into. We have had cases of advisors offering us 20% returns, only to find that they were offering trading expertise with a long term insurance plan also to be bought. They would not offer trading expertise without buying the useless insurance plan with a 10 year premium paying term.  

Majority of investors in FnO and day trading make losses. So, it is very useful to do a dummy portfolio first before putting any real money. 

And most important is this: 

There are many parties in the world. You are not invited to all of them. And that's ok. 


 

Tuesday, 30 July 2024

More LIstings for the Small but Ultimate Book of Online Safety

 https://www.hatchards.co.uk/book/the-small-but-ultimate-book-of-online-safety/nidhi-arora/9798893223002





Walmart US 

https://www.walmart.com/ip/The-Small-But-Ultimate-Book-of-Online-Safety-Paperback-9798893223002/5885519392?wmlspartner=wlpa&selectedSellerId=0



Waterstones UK 

https://www.walmart.com/ip/The-Small-But-Ultimate-Book-of-Online-Safety-Paperback-9798893223002/5885519392?wmlspartner=wlpa&selectedSellerId=0





Sunday, 21 July 2024

The Small but Ultimate Book of Online Safety - July 2024 Edition now out

Very happy to share that the July edition of the book - The Small but Ultimate Book of Online Safety, is now available. 

This edition has a chapter on cyber bullying and some newer financial frauds have been added. 

If you have tweens/teens at home, I do recommend this edition very much. 

Even though we speak about online safety at home, when I asked my son what he would do if he heard from someone that they have a nude pic of him, the answer was confusion. I then realised that these dimensions of deepfake, cyber bullying, etc. are not getting enough attention in our conversations. 

The chapter on cyber bullying has two sections - one for parents and one for the t(w)eens. 

I hope you like it. 

Amazon India link: 

https://www.amazon.in/Small-Ultimate-Book-Online-Safety/dp/B0CZTVY87X

Wednesday, 3 July 2024

International Listings for The Small but Ultimate Book of Online Safety

 1. Barnes and Noble :) 

https://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/the-small-but-ultimate-book-of-online-safety-nidhi-arora/1145557178



2. Ebay UK: 



3. 

What are the top 5 security risks for young professionals

1. Political Manipulation (aka Election Interference) 

2. Dopamine Addiction 

3. Incorrect use of AI 

4. Identity Theft through Deepfake 

5. Financial and other Fraud  

Wednesday, 26 June 2024

The experience of learning Spoken Sanskrit

Many years ago, I got a call from a friend - "Some of us are starting a batch for our kids to learn spoken Sanskrit. Will your child join?" 

"Of course!" 

And that is how Gavish sir, with his unique teaching methodology, entered our lives. And what a difference that has made! 

Later, the batch didn't quite work out, so we converted the classes to individual classes for my son. 

 

Learning spoken Sanskrit is different from learning Sanskrit the way it is currently taught. ALL other languages, without exception, are taught literature and enrichment content first, and grammar last. Sanskrit is the ONLY language in the school in which we start by learning grammar. And everyone knows how interesting that is. It is as if the people doing the curriculum design wanted students to HATE the subject, and they succeeded so well. 


Gavish sir started the same way our kids learn English - with picture books, large format teaching aids, rhymes and very tiny stories. 

From there, we progressed to watching Vartavali - a Sanskrit program that is routinely aired on Doordarshan. 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HCQNFe7Crz8&list=PLxx0m3vtiqMZGmsUEVeTAuWIXqc9fTMHy

For rhymes and easy stories, we used many Youtube channels, but Vedika is my favorite: 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PfTbFiweqvA&list=PL-NnUsrhQb_aV8YvAwZXiImb2xkskdgk7

And then we also heard Sanskrit news on radio. 


How is learning spoken Sanskrit different from current pedagogy? 

First, of course, its wayyyy more interesting. 

Secondly, the ability to speak even simple sentences makes one feel rather accomplished. For instance, I will go becomes अहम् गमिष्यामि  - a full and complete sentence. 

Third, we start by making mistakes of grammar and vocabulary - a LOT. But as we keep listening or watching, they slowly iron out. 

Fourth, it does not become perfect. Which means that you might be able to understand the broad meaning of a shloka, you won't be able to create one. Just like English and Hindi, you are always correcting your grammatical and vocabulary mistakes. 

Fifth, it is way easier to understand Vartavali and Radio news. it is not always easy to read, let's say Vidur Niti or Arthashastra. 

Sixth, your exposure to Sanskrit is not just religious books. It is a lot more broad-based. You hear news in Sanskrit, rhymes, stories, and later, i started reading these general interest books. I still prefer to read them with a Hindi translation being readily available. Sukti Saurabham (a brilliant set of books by CBSE) was easy to understand. Vidur Niti, not so much (I have the edition by Chaukhamba). 

 
So, that has been my experience of learning Sanskrit in this way. 

Some great publishers who make awesome beginner story books in Sanskrit are: 
A. National Book Trust has an entire collection in Sanskrit children's books. 
B. Samskrit Bharati Publications has these books that have common phrases in Sanskrit. The books are incredibly low priced. 
C. For more advanced books, there are many publishers like Motilal Banarsidas etc. But I prefer the work of Chaukhamba Prakashan best. I find their translations very good. 


There is also a Sanskrit newspaper that is still in publication - Sudharma. 

I would like to end with a small observation - Sanskrit is not just for reading religious books. Sanskrit has a really rich collection of fiction and non-fiction books. The original Hitopadesha, Panchatantra, Rajatarangini, Kalidasa, Arthashartsa, Lilavati Beej Ganit - all these books are in Sanskrit. So, Sanskrit, like any other language, opens the doors to a rich collection of literature and knowledge, not just religious and spiritual content.