Almost all of Ted Gioia's posts are awesome, but the articles on cognitive health of teens and young adults are a class apart. Every once in a while, he shares a shocker.
At The Children's Post, the MOST common advice that parents asked for was - How do I keep my child away from distraction?
Not screens. Distraction.
So, here are the most helpful tips (hardly anyone followed them, but don't ask what we noticed in the ones who did)
A. Screens ARE distraction.
They are not 'among the major' sources of distraction. They are not 'the single largest source' of distraction. They are the ONLY source of distraction. In particular, zero screen time for kids below the age of 2, when their brains are developing fastest (faster than they will ever develop again in their lives).
B. Meditation, Pranayama as early as possible
These are not just spiritual practices. These simple practices also build focus and anchor the child for life. Of the two, deep breathing and pranayama is more helpful than meditation. You can follow any meditation practice of your choice.
C. There is NO substitute for human interaction.
Sit. Talk. Laugh. Touch. Hug. Fight. Solve problems together. Discuss world peace. Gossip. Play Board Games. Play Sports. Play hide and seek. Do Treasure Hunt. Make obstacle courses. Take trips. Listen.
Children are not distracted. They are incredibly lonely. We are touching our children less. We are talking to them even lesser. Young adults and teens need as much face time as children, even if they mostly spend that face time ignoring you. Be present. And not with your phone in hand.
If you want your child to respect you, respect them by putting your phone away when they are talking to you.
Address them respectfully. Truly listen. Ask questions that force them to think more.
